How to talk to her about online dating？ Three ways to teach you to be an online dating expert.

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Focus on accumulating topics

Online dating must pay attention to accumulating topics. Chatting is a jumping process, and topics are often jumping. Therefore, chatting puts forward higher requirements for the accumulation of topics, materials and experiences. Therefore, in daily life, we should pay attention to the accumulation of chat materials. For example: anecdotes, funny topics, interesting pictures and personal adventures.

For chat topics, some people with chat experience will be more clear. When your social circle reaches a certain height, necessary chat materials are indispensable. Therefore, whether pursuing girls or living, studying in thousands of books and taking Wan Li Road are your best choices.

Pay attention to the thinking mode of girls chatting.

From the perspective of gender, ways of thinking can be divided into two categories.

(1) Male mode of thinking: abstract generalization, solving problems, exploring motives, establishing cause and effect, reasoning and summarizing, giving priority to purpose and taking objectivity as the standard.

(2) Women’s way of thinking: concrete details, expressing feelings, describing problems, paying attention to the past, being open and sure, forgetting the purpose and taking self as the standard.

From the characteristics of the above types of thinking, male thinking is suitable for solving problems, while female thinking is more suitable for maintaining relationships. Therefore, in the process of chasing girls, you might as well adopt more female thinking. Otherwise, it is difficult to continue the topic or relationship with rational male thinking and emotional female thinking.

Be good at listening and let yourself gain her approval by listening.

In many cases, girls just want to seek the approval of the opposite sex in the process of communication with the opposite sex, instead of exchanging opinions or expanding their ideas. Therefore, in the process of chasing girls, we must learn to listen and gain each other’s approval. You can communicate with each other empathetically, and use the sense of substitution to narrow the distance between you. Remember: whether chatting face to face or talking on the phone, three points are content, and seven points are tone and attitude!

Of course, when listening to each other, you can also be humorous. Humorous men are what most women like. Chatting is an atmosphere, therefore, in the process of chatting, we should keep each other in a relaxed and pleasant state. In order to create this atmosphere, we can try to start from the following aspects:

(1) Mentality: Relax yourself. When chatting with the girl you like, hint at yourself more: I am a humorous person, and this is just an ordinary chat.

(2) Accumulate materials: You can consciously collect anecdotes, jokes, news and materials that the other party is interested in, so as to improve the breadth of the chat.

Details and skills, everything has skills, just need to find out for yourself.

Through the analysis of the above aspects, I believe you have a certain understanding of how to chat with girls. However, it is also necessary to emphasize one point: pay attention to the details in the process of controlling chat.

(1) Pay attention to guidance: if you can make a phone call, don’t send a message. You should know that there are good and bad forms of writing. If you use it well, you can make the other party feel your deep friendship. If you don’t use it well, it is likely to be counterproductive. Some words (confession), don’t use words in person, otherwise the other party will think there is something wrong with your attitude.

(2) Pay attention to their social networks: Through social networks, communication costs can be reduced and the distance between them can be narrowed. For example, reply to her in a circle of friends, "Is this your dog? Very cute ","You see you are starving yourself, let’s go, I’ll take you to eat delicious food ","The movie you recommended is very good "… such information can quickly narrow the distance between the two.

(3) Give your own information constantly: In the process of chatting, the information of both parties is often asymmetric. Therefore, you need to provide your own information to let the other person know about you. In this way, you can open your heart to the opposite direction.